It's not uncommon for babies to become fussier in the evenings in the first 6-8 weeks of age, though it can happen at any time. This behaviour, often referred to as the "witching hour" (that’s a lie it bloody lasts longer than an hour) or cluster feeding, can be challenging for parents, but it's usually a normal phase in a baby's development.
Possible Reasons for Evening Fussiness:
- Developmental Changes: During the first few months, babies go through rapid growth and developmental milestones. Evening fussiness may coincide with growth spurts or cognitive developments.
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Feeding Patterns: Babies may want to nurse more frequently in the evening. This cluster feeding helps them get enough milk and can boost milk supply for the next day. They are so so smart and know the more they stimulate the breast and remove milk the more milk mum will produce.
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Circadian Rhythms: Babies are still developing their internal clocks. Evening fussiness might be influenced by their natural circadian rhythms as they learn to distinguish between day and night. Having naps during the day where there is some sunlight can help support their circadian rhythm (pram, car, carrier, blind slightly open). Although they don't start to develop a circadian rhythm till 3 months old.
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Comfort Seeking: Some babies find comfort in nursing, especially in the evening when they may be more unsettled. This is a normal way for them to soothe themselves. Babies again are very clever and they know that if they are close to you they are safe, you are not causing bad habits holding your baby, don’t listen to those people.
- Seeking sensory Nourishment: Around 1 month old you may notice your baby is more alert and awake for longer periods. Sensory nourishment in regards to touch, smell, taste, sight, and hearing experiences is a great way to meet their needs.
Tips to Help Manage Evening Fussiness:
- Cluster Feeding: Encourage frequent nursing sessions in the evening to meet your baby's increased demand for milk.
- Comfort Measures: Try using gentle rocking, swaddling, baby carrier, skin-skin, warm bath or offering a pacifier if your baby is not hungry but needs comforting.
- Sensory Nourishment: Massage, visual stimuli, talking and playing. Try and get outside a few times a day, even for 10 minutes. It can do a world of good for you and your baby
- Take Breaks: If you're feeling overwhelmed, ask for support from a partner, family member, or friend to give you breaks during this time.
When to Seek Help:
While evening fussiness is usually a normal phase, trust your instincts. If your baby's crying seems excessive, or if you're concerned about their well-being, don't hesitate to reach out to your healthcare provider or a lactation consultant for guidance.
Remember, every baby is different, and what works for one may not work for another. With patience and understanding, you can navigate this phase and continue to nurture your baby's development and well-being.
Big Love,
Midwife Mel